Be willing to disappoint, offend and disrupt.


^^^ That’s the title of one of the chapters in my upcoming book ‘The Art of Divine Selfishness — transform your life, your business & the world by putting YOU first.’⁣

In this book, I share why it’s important to become more Divinely Selfish.⁣

What it costs you when you’re not.⁣

And how everyone benefits when you put yourself, your soul, first.⁣

Putting yourself first takes practice, though.⁣

It requires you to act in ways you never learned (or were conditioned out of).⁣

It requires you to UNlearn behaviors and release beliefs that no longer serve you.⁣

And it takes courage.⁣

Because sometimes, others don’t like it when you follow your own path and truth.⁣

You putting your needs first can disappoint, offend or disrupt others.⁣

I’ve experienced that more times than I can count or even remember!⁣

But… this does NOT mean that you should adjust your behavior so you don’t rock any boats.⁣

Betraying yourself, your needs, your dreams and your truth costs you WAY MORE AND IS SO MUCH MORE PAINFUL than dealing with other people’s frustrations and projections.⁣

Because their disapproval or pain has NOTHING to do with you.⁣

I explain it all in my book, and show you exactly how you can learn to choose yourself without feeling guilty.⁣

Right now, the book is back to the interior designer for the second round.⁣

Overall, it looks really good.⁣

Some minor changes.⁣

Publishing it in March is definitely happening!!⁣

Stay tuned…⁣

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Originally published at on February 2, 2021.



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Brigitte van Tuijl

Brigitte van Tuijl

Unfiltered content for women entrepreneurs who want to grow their biz WITHOUT changing who they are or doing things they hate. Loves people - in moderation :)